Showing posts with label Armstrong. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Armstrong. Show all posts

Thursday, April 24, 2014

Looking Past The Bumps In The Road

 “As the holy weeks of Judaism and Christianity come to an end, we ask: How do you picture God? How do you pray? How does your belief in God connect to your daily life? Karen Armstrong, Krista Tippett, Mark Epstein and the Rev. James Martin join us for this special family meeting.”

This was the introduction to The Brian Lehrer Show, God and You, Monday, April 21, 2014.

I caught only some of Lehrer’s remarkable show. I was heading for the store and, turning the ignition key of my car, the radio immediately caught my attention as I recognized the well-spoken, English voice of theologian, Karen Armstrong. So intent was I on what she was saying that I almost drove past the entrance to Stop and Shop. The Brian Lehrer Show on WNYC (93.9) can do that to you.

 Once having parked, I sat in my car to listen further and heard Armstrong tell us that---I am paraphrasing here—only the modern world separates religious beliefs from culture. In the ancient world all cultures were imbued with religious beliefs. To be a politician was considered a sacred act, Armstrong said. Imagine! Politics as a sacred activity?

I was loath to leave my car but . . . time to go!

On the way home, Fr. James Martin, Jesuit teacher and writer, was discussing various forms of prayer: centering prayer—a Catholic, God-centered form of meditation---and “imaginative” prayer—a form of Ignatian contemplation in which one uses all four senses to place oneself inside a gospel scene. I’ve done this practice; it can be very moving.

 Along with Lehrer, Fr. Martin responded to people who called to share what prayer means to them. It seemed every point of view was expressed: from “I don’t believe in a personal God, so I never ask God for anything”—Fr. Martin disagreed---to expressed belief in God’s fatherly and personal presence.

One caller said something I thought wonderful. (Again, I am paraphrasing.) The man said that he knew that life was full of bumps in the road. He knew also that if he focused on each possible bump he would surely hit it. Therefore he prayed daily that God would guide his vision in order that he might always be able to see past the bumps to the clear path ahead.

Every spiritual teacher I have encountered, from Dr. Norman Vincent Peale, (The Power Of Positive Thinking) to more recent teachers, Fr. Richard Rohr, for example, (Everything Belongs) agree that remaining as positive as we can—even in the face of adversity---and not focusing too intently on the bumps in the road, helps us to get through the difficulties of life more easily.

Let’s face it. Not one of us wants to be seriously tested. But, simply put, a positive attitude can make life more enjoyable in every way. Let’s look where we want to go. Let’s look past the bumps toward the clear path ahead and pray in gratitude each day that that path is revealed to us.
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 For the Karen Armstrong interview, click on Social History of God: and/or for the whole show, God and You: A Two Hour Special at http://www.wnyc.org/shows/bl/

Monday, April 21, 2014

No Simple Steps


The theologian, Karen Armstrong, has been wise with her book, Twelve Steps to A Compassionate Life. Instead of one of her customary tomes, she has produced Twelve Steps as a handy read that you can easily tuck into your bag. Furthermore, the words “Twelve Steps” resonate throughout America and if I can become a compassionate person in twelve steps, I’m all for it. Buy the book!

Begin reading and you find yourself in the company of a theologian who knows more about the history of religion than perhaps any one in the world. You will also discover that there are no simple steps to becoming a person of compassion. But then there wouldn’t be, would there? Developing compassion is a complex business.  Nonetheless, one can, guided by Armstrong--who is guided by the historical greats--make some major moves in that direction.

I think we are far more able to be compassionate toward others than toward ourselves. We are pretty quick to show up with the chicken soup for a friend in need. We are perhaps less compassionate with strangers and certainly with ourselves. Self-compassion lies buried beneath the layers of “shoulds” and “have tos” that direct our lives. When did you last cut yourself some slack?

Only last week I had to catch myself as I waited while an elderly and infirm couple ahead of me in the checkout line, slowly and carefully lifted each purchase out of their cart. A laborious process for both, it took them ages to empty their cart.

 I thought because she-- his wife, I am assuming-- was standing behind the cart, that she was in charge of pushing it forward as they progressed.  Not so. The cart did not move forward and therefore, I could not begin to empty my own. The husband was standing ahead of her and their cart. When he had finished fumbling with his credit card and they were finally checked out, he reached back to pull the cart gently forward while his wife, her fingers clutching the rail, her feet somewhat dragging, moved haltingly along behind him.

I watched them leave, the man pulling the grocery-laden cart, the woman, leaning forward, supported by the rail.

My head? I went from annoyance and impatience: why did I choose this line? I am going to be late if they don’t get moving. To curiosity: is there something the matter with these old people? To a kind of sadness: They are both so very old and wobbly. To, ultimately, a surge of respect for their enormous effort, their heroic steps to forge ahead in life. They had left home and safety to purchase their food.

In a few minutes I had shifted from being an absolute crank to having a heart full of compassion for those two people.

Perhaps some of you move to compassion more swiftly than I or possibly inhabit compassion 24/7, in which case, God bless you, you are healing the world. I can be a bit slow sometimes, but these days, instead of berating myself, I thank God that I do get there, most of the time, and that I am aware of my process as I move from one emotional state to another.

 Over time, I have learned to be gentler with myself and I am grateful for self-compassion when I allow it to arise.

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American compassion continues to flow to the Ukraine.

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