Showing posts with label Jesus. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Jesus. Show all posts

Monday, March 28, 2016

So Long Ago And We Still Don't Get It

As some of you may have noticed, I didn’t post a week ago Monday. I feel guilty when I don’t and then I remind myself that this is something I do for pleasure. I’m not going to receive a grade or win a prize—a free trip to the Caribbean?—or have my name put on a brass plaque because I write a blog.

Nonetheless there is some promise I make to myself and to all of you, who so kindly read Life Opening Up that I will turn up with something to think about or laugh about on Monday mornings. I regret breaking that promise.

The problem has been the election. It is all consuming, isn’t it? Or maybe some of you escape the drama and, more sensible than I, spare yourselves the morning and evening news.

Backing up a bit. In church last Sunday, the thoughtful and creative Reverend Laura Whitmore led the Pastoral Prayer. She began by eloquently thanking God for all the blessings of our lives and also for life itself. Then she said, “Still, Lord, we weep” and my bowed head popped up.

I thought. That’s it! I weep! My insides are weeping. I am not writing because I am made speechless by weeping.

I weep for our country caught up in the outrageous bombastic, uncivil turmoil of this election time. I weep for the inflated egos of our politicians who are too power-hungry and self absorbed to cooperate, compromise and lead. I weep that most have become professional politicians, more interested in their political future and re-election than in serving the country. (Maybe a term time limit would be a good thing?)

I weep that it is rare to hear a politician disagree with an opponent without some personal insult. I yearn to read about a politician saying to an opponent from the other side of the aisle, “Let’s find a way.” 

I remember dignified elections, even when they were tight and tense. In 1948, Truman defeated Dewey and the Chicago Tribune had already published an early “Dewey Defeats Truman” headline. Total upset. No rancor. None.

And now I weep for Belgium, unexpectedly blasted at a major airport and metro station. Thirty-one people killed and two hundred and seventy injured.

For those of the Christian faith, Easter is upon us: a time when we celebrate the resurrection of Jesus who willingly died an excruciating death on the cross.

Why did he have to die? Simply put, because nobody really got what he was saying about the brotherhood of all human beings: about the need to love one another, to care for one another, to care for the poor, and to forgive and to make every effort to understand one another. Whatever you believe about the resurrection, Jesus' teachings are unambiguous and eternal.

We are immensely challenged to love our enemies, especially in these days of terrorism, but “love” them we must: understand them we must, seek to know their fears and desires we must. Most of all we must find ways to talk with them if we are ever to create peace in this world.

How many millions must die before we get this?


 I weep.
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Monday, October 6, 2014

Wanting To Get Rid Of The "I" In Me

Saturday night after Buddhist teacher, Will Duncan’s, talk, I was awake for hours. I was wracked by the desire to somehow burn through my ego during the time remaining before I die. Burn through until there would be nothing left of it but ashes. How to get rid of the “I” in me?

Good grief! What was I thinking? In the light of day I know that isn’t going to happen. Surrendering the “I” is for the great souls like Jesus, and the Buddha and Muhammad and Martin Luther King and Gandhi and Nelson Mandela--just to name a few-- all of whom burned through ordinary life and its dazzling distractions to the place of ultimate service. That they might die for the teaching they offered the world was clear to each one. And some did have to make the final sacrifice; some did not. Nonetheless each one suffered his personal and profound trial in the process of purification.

I’ve had some trials; purified, I am not.

Have you noticed our propensity for killing off those who emerge to give voice to the still revolutionary messages of forgiveness, of our connection to all beings and of our call to love “our crooked neighbors as our crooked selves?”  (W.H. Auden)

Unlike the great souls, I am pretty well stuck into this life: this existence of mine, rife with its preferences, prejudices, its possibilities unexplored, jealousies and human frailties. You know what I mean: all the stuff that keeps us grinding away at life. Most of us are unable to sustain a vision that propels us forward into increased open heartedness; greater understanding and generosity and above all, the freedom to just let go.

Because I believe in reincarnation—please do not ask me to explain this-- I want to clear as much of the debris of my ego stuff in this lifetime as I am able to identify. My hope is that in the next life—in which of course I will not be me--I will not have to repeat all the same garbage. There will be new garbage to deal with as my soul evolves; I just don’t want the same old, same old, been there, done that.

You know that feeling? I’ve been through this situation before: the people are different, the stage set is altered, but I am feeling a familiar nasty anxiety here. I thought I had this one figured out!

If we can shine a benevolent light of awareness on such moments as they arise, we can, right then, in that moment, have a chance to make a different choice. We have the capacity to change when we notice our habitual patterns.

God knows I am a million lifetimes away from being able, like Will Duncan, to spend three years gently guiding rattlesnakes out of my solitary hut in the desert. But I can be on the path of liberation. I can keep opening my heart. Every time I want to shut down on someone or some situation I can become aware of that and breathe and soften my heart around it. I can seek a different response to feeling attacked, or ignored or disappointed or angry or . . . anything.

As Will would say, “We can only do the best that we can” in each moment, trying not to concretize our opinions, solidify our prejudices, juice our dramas and stir our anger. When we notice those habitual reactions arising, we can choose to breathe and soften. We can choose freedom; we can choose peace.

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