Showing posts with label soothing. Show all posts
Showing posts with label soothing. Show all posts

Friday, July 31, 2015

Bunnies, Hawks and . . .Lions?


There are bunnies on the dirt road that runs directly to the cove. Lots of them. I see them every day. Not in bunches. Usually one at a time and, rather than spook the furry, sweet creatures, I stop and talk to them.

“Don’t worry,” I say, “I know that I frighten you but I’m not going to hurt you. You can stay there doing whatever it is you are doing and I’ll just stroll by toward the water.”

That does it, usually. They hear my voice and they scamper, but this morning the bunny on the path freezes; it remains absolutely still, facing the thick bushes toward where he or she was headed. So I keep talking, making my voice as soothing and reassuring as possible.



“I’m just going to walk past you to the cove,” I say. “Isn’t it a nice morning?” Stuff like that.

And, to my amazement, this bunny turns its head to look at me. I am pleased beyond measure. He is maybe a bit curious? Certainly he must have heard human voices before, but he turns his head toward me and I feel a rush of unexpected and gentle acceptance.



Two days later on my walk to the cove I am making time along the macadam when a fluttering motion in the sky slightly forward of me—not very high yet, but climbing-- catches my eye. A hawk. The light offers no shine on the feathers, so I am not sure what kind of hawk it is, but from its compact shape and tail configuration, I figure it is a red tailed hawk.

I admire hawks: their powerful wings, their laser sharp vision and their ability to soar high in the sky and then suddenly dive with astonishing accuracy toward their prey. I love seeing them resting, waiting on a tree branch turning their heads this way and that, taking in their surroundings and its possibilities for food.

This rising hawk catches my breath. It has a bunny gripped in its sharp talons, the bunny’s body neatly parallel to the body of the hawk. The hawk’s lift is not the least impeded by the weight of the rabbit; it flies smoothly and efficiently toward home. A nest of hungry baby hawks, I assume, will gorge on that bunny.

I know that in nature everything is something else’s food. That’s the way it is. But still. . . .

I imagine the bunny hopping through some low brush when suddenly it’s back is deeply pierced by clawed talons, it’s neck sliced by a razor shark beak and, perhaps not yet dead, it finds itself painfully lifted into the air. Does the bunny know its life is over, I wonder? I am hoping it is already dead by the time it becomes lunch cargo, but that may not be the case.

Humans are the only species who kill for the fun of it. Witness the recent outrageous kill of the male lion, Cecil. Cecil, a long time, favorite resident of Hwange National Park in Zimbabwe, was lured off protected land by the scent of dead meat dragged along by a car. 

Once off the parkland, Cecil was shot with a bow and arrow and wounded, but not killed, by American dentist, Dr. Walter J. Palmer. Palmer paid $54,000 for the opportunity. They had to track Cecil for two days before Palmer could finally kill him with a gun. He then beheaded the lion.


Give me the hawk headed home with his dead rabbit any day.

Monday, June 15, 2015

A " Companion Pony?"

Let me just say up front that I know little about horses and even less about horse racing. Nonetheless I was near tears at the sight of American Pharoah stretching out his long legs in the final yards of the Belmont Stakes last Saturday. I have heard that great racehorses have “heart” and that’s what I felt I was looking at: a horse with heart. Huge heart. The kind of heart that sends you bulleting forward with everything you’ve got in order to fulfill what you were birthed and trained to do . . . and, then, possibly, even a little bit more.

American Pharoah wins the Belmont Stakes and captures the Triple Crown, the twelfth horse ever to do so in racing history. His jockey, Victor Espinoza, is grinning broadly and blowing kisses to the crowd. The spectators in the stands are cheering and waving their arms madly and the bands are playing. Hall of Fame trainer, Bob Baffert, and his family are hugging each other and wiping tears from their cheeks.

The camera cuts to American Pharoah with Espinoza still aboard, and who is that horse cozying up next to Pharoah? It’s not Smokey, Pharoah’s usual “companion pony.” It’s Pharoah’s “lead horse,” the one who led him to the gate and the one who is trained to lead Pharoah off the practice track if something goes amiss during training.

“Horses are not loners by nature, so it is common practice for thoroughbreds to keep a horse known as a ‘companion pony’ for friendship and support,” writes Jill Pellettieri for The Explainer. “Many companion ponies also double as lead ponies who also serve as a safety net—if something happens to the race horse on the track during practice, the pony, which the thoroughbred respects and trusts, can inch in close, offering reassurance while the racehorse is in a vulnerable state.”

Apparently Pharoah’s “lead horse” and “companion horse” are two different horses. He has a support team.

The race over, Pharoah’s head is turned into the neck of his “lead horse.” He appears to be sort of snuggling, but the truth is that a strap is connecting the two horses, and when pulled, it turns Pharoah’s head slightly into the neck of the other horse. Pharoah looks totally comfortable as he steadies down, pressed into the neck of his “lead horse.”

Still, I am disappointed that it isn’t Pharoah’s barn and training horse friend, Smokey--officially known as This Whiz Shines--- out there with Pharoah. They are essentially inseparable. Smokey is Pharoah’s “companion pony.”

When Pharaoh is taken to the racetrack for a workout Smokey, purchased by Baffert for his quiet and gentle nature, is alongside. When Pharoah travels in a van or on the Boeing 727, named Air Horse One, Smokey travels with him. As I read it, Smokey is Pharoah’s mainstay.

 I would have liked it if, at the end of the Belmont Stakes race, Smokey--the "companion pony"-- had been beside Pharoah immediately to settle him down. But he wasn’t. I don’t know if Donna Barton-Brothers of NBC was riding Smokey for the quick victory interview with Espinoza as she did after the Derby and the Preakness. I didn’t see her.

No matter. Smokey will be there at the racing barn when a sweaty, exhausted American Pharoah, draped in white flowers, comes off the track and heads for a bath.

Why am I going on about this?

 Because like American Pharoah, I think we all need a combination of “companion pony” and “lead horse” in our lives.

If we merge these two concepts in our minds, I think you 'll agree that after we’ve caught the bit in our teeth and extended our body/mind/ spirits to their absolute limit in some soul-driven endeavor, we, too, want someone-- non-competitive—upon whom we can rely to settle us down. Walk with us. Soothe us and bring us slowly and gently back into the day-to-day world. Someone who is willing to get into the fray and fetch us out if what we have set our hearts upon goes pear–shaped.

At the same time we need to be able to function as a “companion /lead pony” for others, or at least one other. We know what we need and want. Can we offer that relaxed comfort and assurance to another when he or she has, with heart pounding, risked digging out a new stream in his or her life’s river, thereby extending its usual boundaries?


Your “companion/lead pony” may be a spouse, or a best friend or you may, touched with a bit of yearning, simply hold such a person in your imagination. But I know that you know exactly what I mean.