Showing posts with label web of love. Show all posts
Showing posts with label web of love. Show all posts

Monday, March 24, 2014

A Powerful Jolt


The first day of spring, March 20, was almost spring-like.

I went grocery shopping. After heaving the bags into my trunk, I closed it, and prepared to walk around the car on the driver’s side. But I could not. The door of a black SUV parked next to me on the left was open and totally blocked my passage.

A young woman, dressed in a red jacket and red baseball cap, her dark hair pulled back into a long ponytail, was bent over the back seat, arranging a two year-old boy into his car seat. She was making a game of it, smiling and chatting away at him. He was giggling.

I was watching.

She buckled him in, her hand fondly mussing his light brown hair and then, to his obvious delight, she began a game of catching and kissing each of his fingers.

Any hurry I had in me evaporated.

 For there in the ever-moving, careening-cart, super market parking lot, this young mother had halted. She had ceased whatever rush she may have felt, to play with her son.

She had no idea that I was watching, four feet—and a car door—away from them, so intent was she on her baby.

It wowed me. I could feel their happiness, the web of love she wove between them as she kissed his tiny fingers. Love all around them, a private, encompassing sort of light.

I don’t know how long I stood there, maybe three minutes, when, suddenly, he laughed out loud and so did I. I couldn’t help myself. But it broke the spell, slanting into their intimacy like a sharp knife.

Mother and child turned at once to look at the stranger standing so near. The little boy shot me an enormous smile.

“What a lovely smile!” I said, directly to him, wishing I hadn’t laughed and crashed into their time together.

The mother immediately understood that because her back door was open, I couldn’t get into my car. Reaching toward her son to settle him, she said to me cheerfully over her shoulder, “He’s a very smiley little boy.”

She closed the door and allowed me to pass.

“I can see that!” I responded, acknowledging her and waving at him as I walked by.

When I turned on the ignition, a bright-voiced announcer from radio WNYC informed me that not only was it the first day of spring, but it was also officially Happiness Day!

I’ve never heard of Happiness Day but it was fine with me.


I was already giddy and full of gratitude from the vicarious, but exquisite jolt of pure happiness that I had just witnessed.

Monday, March 3, 2014

The Web That Holds


Last week I was traveling. To Florida. For my birthday. This was a significant birthday, and so, corralled expertly by my talented daughter, my entire immediate family came together on Key Largo for a weekend of celebration.

I was gobsmacked!

 The group consisted of my three adults—no way can I continue to call these capable and delightful people my ”children,” for children they are not—their spouses, and five of my six grandchildren. Sadly, one grandson was unable to come due to his exam schedule—an annoying lack of cooperation on the part of Boston College, I felt.

How to write about this? I have thought and thought. How to convey to you the absolute joy of the time with these people whom I love and to whom I am so profoundly connected?

We did almost everything the Ocean Reef Club had to offer, either together in one large group—picture my oldest son-in-law immediately after breakfast hurrying toward the pool, clutching newspapers and T-shirts to scatter in order to save twelve chairs. In smaller groups we went deep-sea fishing, played golf and tennis, took walks, and indulged ourselves at the spa. It was all there and the sun was shining. We took full advantage.

But mostly we hung out together, told stories and laughed.

A family photo was taken to commemorate the occasion and I felt sorry for the photographer: it was like herding cats. Still, the picture was achieved and we will be forever framed, arms linked, celebrating one another at the time of my birthday.

That we are a family of privilege is not lost on me. My family members are creative, hard working and successful. We are extraordinarily fortunate in that way.

But far beyond the wonderful Ocean Reef Club and beyond even our individual idiosyncrasies and shortcomings--- we certainly have those—there exists among us a miraculous web of love, the web of family that weaves us together and holds.

My greatest joy lies in the fact that we love being together. Nothing, no-thing in this world, is better than that.